How do you know if your significant other is cheating on you? What are the differences between real signs and possible paranoia setting in?
While every relationship is different, and the actions and behaviors in relationships can be different as a result, here are four simple signs that your SO is cheating on you.
An improvement in appearance
We know what you’re thinking… An improvement in appearance, such as your SO wearing better clothes or taking care of his or her body by going to the gym more, should be a welcoming sign. It is — as long as this person is doing these things for you or himself/herself.
Out-of-the-ordinary behavior could be seen as a positive, especially when your SO is trying to better himself/herself, but this behavior should also be taken with a grain of salt and a pint of caution, especially if this person is also showing the signs below.
Secretive technology use
If your SO is using his or her technology in private, quickly closes his or her computer when you enter the room, or is trying to be secretive in any shape or form, then that’s not a good sign. It might not mean your SO is cheating, but it at least signals that this person is doing something wrong or something he or she feels guilty about.
Secretive technology use could include periods of your SO being unreachable or unexplained expenses.
For example, if your SO uncharacteristically starts taking phone calls outside or in another room, then that could be a sign of him or her cheating. And if your SO is unreachable at random times, whether he or she has an alibi or not, that could be another sign of cheating.
Another red flag: If your SO starts changing (or adding) passwords on his or her devices.
However, if your SO has always shown these habits, then they likely value their privacy and aren’t doing anything out of the ordinary. Of course, if your SO says he or she has to work and you see a receipt from a 9 p.m. dinner at a fancy restaurant, then this person has some explaining to do.
A sudden schedule change
A sudden schedule change could be the result of your SO getting a job promotion, but, of course, this isn’t the 50’s — while every relationship is different, staying at the office all night or your SO telling you he or she booked a hotel in the city for the night because it was late … likely means something is up, especially if this continues to happen.
Having to stay late or canceling dinner reservations at the last second isn’t alarming in itself, but constantly doing these things is cause for concern. It could mean your SO is cheating on you, or this person no longer values the relationship. Everyone makes sacrifices, and also needs to compromise in a relationship.
Your SO always seems guilty of something
Does it feel like your SO is walking on eggshells? This could be because of a number of different reasons, but if your SO’s behavior drastically changes, then there’s a problem.
If your SO’s behavior becomes really suspicious, then you can do a free phone number lookup. While these types of services are commonly used for providing mugshots, arrest records, and phone number/address lookups, they can also help catch cheaters.
Your SO should feel comfortable around you and vice versa, but if it always seems like he or she is hiding something or feels guilty, then these acts could be a sign of infidelity.
While these are common signs of cheating, we want to make it clear that even if your significant other is showing the above signs, it doesn’t mean he or she is cheating. Everyone is different and acts differently as a result. Something else could be going on, which is why it’s important to be honest in your relationship and bring up concerns that are bothering you.